The thing people struggle for whole life
As life goes on, people change their preferences with time. They can not stick to one thing their whole life. But a sense of “to be called good by others” or “to have a good name in others language” is such a strong thing that every head struggles the whole life. This element is strongly embedded in everyone’s consciousness. I must say our whole life revolves around it. Why do we love to be called “good man” by folks? It is not mandatory to have good comments from the surrounding. The thing which matters is self-satisfaction. You are satisfied with your doing it is ok. The point is we are not allowed to rely on the testimony of conscience. The surroundings like to judge and build an opinion about everyone. Intentionally we are bound to have a good opinion by others. A child who does not have a proper understanding of anything. When he starts to socialize, develops the sense of “to be appreciated” unconsciously. He likes to be loved. He strives to have affection from elders. After doing something new he looks at others to have their reaction. He shows his initial doings to parents and fellows and expects a positive response. He gets hurt by negative comments. He tries to perform actions accordingly. He develops the fear of being cursed. With time he lost his inner self and started to live a life according to the so-called standards of society. He struggles to have a good name in the conversation of folks. Everyone cares about what people talk about him. No one tries to get rid of this fear. One who does this considers himself brazen-faced. Why is it not considered normal?
No award in hands
Many sacrifice just for building the so-called image in society. Do we want to get an “award” or “character certificate” from people around us? It is impossible to make everyone happy. We are not responsible for what others think about ourselves. Self-satisfaction and testimony of conscience are worthwhile.
Explanation
The only person who is responsible for my deeds is me. In case of any evil deed, I am the only person who will pay for it. That’s why we should not bound ourselves to give explanations of our surroundings. They have no right to demand justification from us.
Women as always
Women are supposed to care more about the perception of commonality. They are judged more. They are criticized more. They are expected to develop a good image in society. Even a single evil deed abruptly changes the perception and she gets rejected by society. They always struggle and sacrifice more to make a good impression. Are they bound to impress the folks? They do not live their life. They live the life of expectations.